THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF GRATITUDE 😁 🙏
There are two types of gratitude, they are very different states of mind:
One is pseudo gratitude (the feel-good high feeling when someone is supporting your values). 😁
The second is true gratitude when you see the underlying order and perfection in the universe, this is where you see support=challenge, it can also be described as seeing “what is as it is”.🙏
When you are viewing things from an unconditioned, unbiased perspective and you realise the perfection around you, that nothing is out of order and there is nothing to fix.🥲 (usually accompanied by a tear of gratitude or goosebumps)
MOST OF YOUR TIME WILL BE JUDGEMENTS 🧑⚖️ (THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE)
Most of the time as humans we are existing in the terrestrial world/state of mind (the world of judgements).
The first pseudo-state of gratitude I described above.
Here we are judging the world through our own biased perspectives and wanting to change things and fix them to how we think they should be.
You can only unlock true gratitude when you have a perfectly equilibrated mind and your heart opens.
In that moment your consciousness is aligned with divinity/GOD/Universe/God’s will and you have true gratitude for what is as it is.
UNLOCKING GRATITUDE ANALOGY🔓
As an analogy you can think of your mind as a key and each moment of perception (a sliver of time) in your life as a tumbler lock.
Believe it or not, you can equilibrate your mind and have gratitude for every single experience in your life.
But you can’t just use any old key (dis-equilibrated, conditioned, judgemental state of mind) and expect the lock to open.
KEY DIAGRAM ANALOGY🔐
Key - Your Mind
Key Cuts - Exaggerations (infatuation), minimisations (resentment) or equilibrations (neutral) of one or another element of your perception in a specific moment of perception. (a sliver of time)
Lock Pins - Various elements (one or multiple) of your perception that may be equilibrated (aligned with the sheer line in the diagram) or dis-equilibrated (not aligned with sheer line).
Lock chamber - When each of the elements of judgement in a moment of perception have all been equilibrated, the key turns and you unlock gratitude for that moment in your life.
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If you perfectly equilibrate your mind, the pins in the lock line up, the lock opens and you unlock gratitude.
You can think of each pin in the lock (in this picture there are 5) as an element that you need to equilibrate in a moment of perception.
If you are ever so slightly feeling emotionally high or low (key cuts in your key, in the diagram) your mind is not perfectly equilibrated and you don’t get to unlock any gratitude.
EXAMPLE
For example, let’s say that your father criticised you for something that you did in front of a group of people and you have a big negative emotional charge stored in your subconscious mind for his criticism of you. 😤
You might then go and find how his criticism of you in that moment of perception was a benefit or service to you. (1st pin in the lock aligns)
Once you have done that you may be sitting there thinking “I found the benefits of what he did, why am I still not grateful?”
Then you might realise that you kind of feel guilty (ingratitude) towards him for him having to look like the bad guy in front of the group.😔 So you are not yet grateful for that moment in your life.
So then you might go and find how him criticising you actually benefited him.
When you realise how his criticism of you was a benefit=drawback to him, you dissolve your guilt. (2nd pin in the lock aligns)
So now you kinda feel a bit better but not yet grateful for the whole episode...
Then you realise that you’re kind of feeling a bit embarrassed for getting called out in front of the group like that.😳
So then you go back to the moment and you find how getting criticised in front of those people specifically benefited you. (3rd pin aligns)
Ok great, no more anger at Dad, no more feeling guilty towards Dad, no more embarrassment from the group, but I’m still not grateful.
You might then realise that in that same moment there’s a part of you that’s ungrateful to your Dad because he’s always criticising you all the time, why doesn’t he ever compliment or praise you for what you do? 😒
So then you might ask the question, where & when does Dad praise/compliment me for what I do?
Eventually, you become aware of all of the moments when your dad is praising you (that you somehow completely overlooked a moment ago) and you get to a point where you can see that your Dad both praises/compliments & criticises you to the same degree in different moments & in different contexts based on if you are challenging or supporting what is important to him at the time. (4th pin aligns)
Now you are feeling a lot better about the situation as a whole but you’re still not grateful and you are just kinda feeling indifferent about the whole thing. 😑
There must be another element in that moment of perception that you still have some judgement on and haven’t yet accounted for.
Then you realise that even though you can see how the whole thing served you and all, you still kind of think it would have been better if he just told you the criticism in private. (You are comparing what he actually did to a fantasy (all+, no-) in your mind 💭 that you think would have been ‘better’)
So now you ask yourself “If Dad criticised me in private, how I preferred him to do, what would have been the drawback of that?”
You then realise all of the drawbacks of the way you preferred him to do it and all of the things you would have missed out on if he did it that way, you realise that what he did, the way he did it was perfect and exactly what you needed at that moment. 🥲 (5th pin aligns)
Now you are seeing the perfection in the moment, your heart opens and you are feeling gratitude for your dad’s actions. 🙏
Even if someone gave you a supernatural ability to change anything you want to about that moment and how it played out, you realise that there is nothing to change, because there was never anything out of order in the first place.